Have you ever read a book, blog or social media from the romance community and thought – what on earth does that term mean? Well, you’re not alone.
I’ve collated the most common terminology of the romance community and popped it into a handy A-Z glossary so you can be confused no more.
So if you’ve been afraid to ask, here are the most used acronyms in romance land.
Find out about the different types of Point of View. read about the different Tropes or learn about the different historical eras.
A
Alpha Hero / Male | A hero who is a bit dominant, in charge, knows what they want and goes out to get it. |
Alphahole | An alpha (see above) who has crossed the line from being strong and in-charge, into just being a domineering asshole. |
Alpharoll / Alpha Roll | A hero who is, at least on the surface, an alpha male. Inside, however, he’s as sweet and kind as a cinnamon roll. Alpha + Cinnamon Roll = Alpha Roll. |
Angst | An angsty or angst-ridden book is one where the characters go through the emotional wringer during the course of the story. Lots of emotion, heartache, heartbreak – just a lot of emotional chaos before our HEA. |
ANR / ABF | A Nursing Relationship / Adult Breast Feeding. A kink sometimes found in romance stories. |
AOC | Author of Colour |
Apron Tuggers | A book that focusses in or around food. A play on bodice ripper. |
ARC | Advanced Reading/Reader’s Copy – an early copy of a book/e-book that is sent out to reveiwers/bloggers/other authors. |
ASIN | Amazon Standard Identification Number. A 10-charcter alphanumeric unique identifier used for product-identification. For books, the ASIN is the same as the ISBN number. E.g. |
Autobuy | An author whose books/writing you like so much that you will buy their books without reading the blurb, looking at the price etc. E.g. Nora Roberts is on my autobuy list. |
AWWM | A romance between an Asian woman and a white man |
B
Backlist | The list of an author’s previous books. |
Backstory | A character’s life before the start of the book. Can include their life story, childhood and romantic history. |
Babygirl Hero | A male who is attractive but in a more feminine, cutesy, soft featured way. “He’s so babygirl.” |
BBW | Big Beautiful Woman. The heroine of the novel is a curvy goddess. |
BDSM | Bondage and Discipline (B&D), Dominance and Submission (D&S) and Sadism & Masochism (S&M) |
Behind closed door / bedroom doors | Where the couple’s sexual relationship happens behind closed doors and therefore off the page. We hear, see and read nothing! |
Beta Hero | A hero that’s perhaps more sensitive and approachable than a traditional alpha male. May be more geeky or less typical than your standard romance hero. |
Beta Reader | Someone who test reads an author’s work, usually when it’s in the early stages. They can be friends, family, industry professionals or people hired specifically for the task. |
Big Misunderstanding | The big problem that our couple will encounter, and have to overcome, on their path to happily ever after. |
Binge / Binge Read | When you read all the books of an author or series in a row, often in quick succession. |
BIPOC | Black, Indigenous and / or a person / people of colour |
Blaze | Because I talk about it so often, Blaze was a category/series romance published by Mills & Boon / Harlequin until 2017. It featured sassy heroines and irresistible heroes embarking on sizzling sexual adventures. |
Blurb | A short description of a book, outlining the story. The back cover text. |
BOB | Battery operated boyfriend aka a sex toy, vibrator or dildo |
Bodice Ripper | Usually depicts historical romances from the 70s/80s with bare chested Fabio and heaving bosom covers and consent wasn’t as much of an issue as it is now. |
Book Birthday | The day an author’s book is released – and sometimes the anniversary of that date. |
Book Boyfriend (sometimes written as BB or BBF) | The perfect man/boyfriend. He’s hot, sexy, loyal, romantic – everything you could ever want in a partner. But – dammit – he’s fictional. |
Book Girlfriend | As above but she’s the perfect woman/girlfriend. |
Book Hangover | When you’ve been so invested in a book that finishing it leaves you feeling emotionally drained and unable to move on. |
Bookstagram | Instagram as used by book-lovers. Pictures of books and all that other loveliness. |
BookTok | TikTok for the book community. |
BookTube | YouTube for the book community. |
Bowdlerize / Bowdlerise | To change or modify text in a book to remove bits felt to be vulgar or that might scandalise us poor, delicate women. |
Bromance (also known as BRO-TP) | A close but non-sexual relationship between two men. Really good friends or, perhaps, someone that another admires or looks up to. Bro-TP means Bromance/Brother True Pairing much like OTP. |
Buddy Read | Two or more people reading the same book at the same time so that they can discuss it as they go. |
BWWM | A romance between a black woman and white man |
C
Category / Series Romance | A shorter book, usually approximately 50K words, that fits a publisher’s line or series. E.g. Harlequin Blaze, Mills and Boon Dare etc. |
Character Arc | The journey of a character from the beginning to the end of the story. Often where there’s a large change or growth such as reformed rake, previous bad boy etc. |
Cinnamon Roll Hero | A cinnamon roll hero is one that is super sweet, kind, loving, warm, supportive and deliciously good – much like a cinnamon roll. You can also get Alpha Cinnamon Rolls aka Alpha Rolls. |
Clean | A controversial term denoting a book that doesn’t contain profanity or sex. (Controversial because some feel it implies that the opposite of the clean romance is an un-clean romance which sounds judgey AF). This article over on Book Riot is a good read on the issue. |
Cliffhanger | *breathes deeply* The ending of a book that doesn’t finish the story, meaning you have to buy another book (maybe more) to finally get to the end. A cheap marketing tactic for those lacking discipline or an editor. |
Clinch Cover | A cover featuring a hot couple in a sexy clinch pose. Very reminiscent of the early romances of the 90s. See Fabio. |
Closed Door | A book where the sex or sexual situations take place behind closed doors, don’t appear on the page and aren’t talked about (in descriptive terms). |
CNC | Consensual Non-Consent. A mutual agreement between partners to act as if sexual consent has been waived. Role Playing. See also DubCon. |
Contemporary Romance | A romance set in this world as if it’s happening on the current date. No fantasy, paranormal or other elements. |
CR | Currently Reading |
CW | Content Warning. Informing potential readers of contents in a book that might be objectionable, upsetting or triggering. See also TW. |
D
Daddy | The more dominant role in the DDLG relationship. |
DDLG or DD/LG | Daddy Dom / Little Girl – an alternative lifestyle where one person takes on the caregiver role and the other the more submissive/childlike role. |
DNF | Did not finish (a book) |
DNR | Do Not Read List. A list – real or in your head – where you list all the things you won’t read be it an author, a trope or a certain period etc. |
DP | Double penetration – sex where someone is being penetrated (e.g. orally, vaginally or anally) twice at the same time by one or more partners. |
D/s | Dominant and Submissive. See also BDSM. |
Dubious Consent / Dub Con | Where the line between a consensual and non-consensual relationship / sexual situation is somewhat blurry. |
E
Elevator Pitch | A short and persuasive speech that (in this case) explains your book and what it’s about. |
Epilogue | An ‘extra’ chapter at the end of a story after the HEA. It usually gives a glimpse into the lives of the characters some time after their HEA. |
F
F2L | Denotes the Friends to Lovers trope. |
Fabio | A prolific cover model from the early 90s. He’s big, he’s burly, he’s got abs aplenty and hair goals. |
Fade to Black | The characters are about to have sex but the author doesn’t write about it on page. Fade to black refers to a film where the camera scene just fades or pans away from the couple. |
Fae | A being that lives in the other world or fairyworld. Basically a fairy. |
Fancy Peen | Fancy Penis. Usually seen in paranormal or speculative romance where the hero is an alien and has something like spikes, ridges, bumps and etc on his male apendage! |
Fandom | A community of fans of a particular book, character, world, TV show etc. |
Fantasy Romance | A romance with magical, fantastical and / or non-human elements. Not set in space – that would be sci-fi. |
Fated Mates | Where the couple in our romance are destined by fate to be together. Usually used in paranormal romance. |
Fauxmance | Also called a Fake Relationship – a trope where a couple pretend to be in love / in a relationship. |
The Feels | All the emotions. If something “gives you the feels” then it means it’s emotional in the best possible way. Contraction of feelings. |
FF or F/F | Female female – a story where the couple are both female. Lesbian romance. See also WLW. |
FMC | Female main character (see also MMC) |
FWB | Friends with Benefits. Two people who are friends and have sex but don’t define themselves as being in a relationship or actually dating. |
G
Gamma Hero | A hero that combines the best of an alpha and beta hero. He’s strong yet approachable. Bossy yet geeky. Some describe gamma heroes as cuddly alphas. |
Glom/Glomming | Finding and enjoying a new-to-you author, then susequently buying up their BACKLIST and binge-reading them all. |
GL | Girl Love. Lesbian Fiction. |
GMC | In relation to writing – goals, motivation, conflict |
Golden Retriever Hero | Golden Retriever boyfriend. A hero who is warm, affectionate, caring and loving – much like a cute and cuddly golden retriever dog. |
Gooning | The act of achieving / giving prolonged arousal through sensory overload often involving hypnosis. |
GR | Goodreads |
H
HEA | Happily ever after. Nuff said. |
Head Hopping | When the point-of-view switches between characters in the middle of a scene, paragraph or sentence. |
Heat Level | How much sex there is in a book or how spicy – or not – it is. There is no hard and fast rule on how to define heat level as it’s very subjective. |
HFN | Happy for now. The couple are happy at the end of a book but perhaps not married, engaged, pregnant etc. |
H/h | Hero and heroine |
Himbo Hero | Male version of a bimbo – but without the negative connotations. Hero is usually buff, jock-like, built and has a friendly, outgoing personality. |
Hybrid Author | An author who has published both traditionally (with a publisher) and independently / self-published. |
I
Indie Author | An author who self publishes their books. |
Inspy Romance | Short for Inspirational romance. Usually clean romance with Christian or religious themes/characters. |
Insta-Love | When one or both characters in a story fall hard and fast in full-blown love on first meeting. Hell, sometimes they don’t even need to have met yet. |
IR | Interracial romance. A romance between two characters of different races. |
ISBN | International Standard Book Number – a unique identifier given to a published book. E.g. 978-1542023801 |
ISO | In search of… Often in a dating ad or similar. |
J
JP, J/P or JPO | Jealous / Possessive / Obsessive |
JRR | Jo Reads Romance. This blog. Because I’m too lazy to write Jo Reads Romance all the time! |
K
KU | Kindle Unlimited. A book borrowing subscription programme from Amazon. You pay a monthly fee and can borrow books included in the KU programme for no further cost. Not free. You pay for the subscription so the books aren’t free. |
L
LEO Romance | Law Enforcement Officer Romance |
Lesbian Fiction / Lesfic | Short for lesbian fiction (which may or may not be romance). |
LI | Shorthand form for love interest. |
Little | The more submissive/childlike role in the DDLG relationship |
Love Triangle | When the main character has two different love interests – which one will he/she choose? |
M
Mary Sue | A female character who is too perfect, has no flaws and is adored by everyone. An unbelievable character. |
Mass Market (Paperback) | A smaller book (about 4″ x 7″) that are printed for larger audiences. They tend to be cheaper than a trade paperback. |
May-December Romance | A romance between a couple where there’s a considerable age difference. May means spring and youth, while December is the winter and older age. |
M&B | Mills & Boon – publishing company. |
MC | Main character(s) |
MC Romance | Motorcycle Club Romance. |
Meet Cute | A sweet/funny/interesting/unusual way in which the couple first meet each other. |
Microtropes | A moment in a book that is worthy of note – like smaller, scene level trope. For example when he cooks for her, when he calls her a pet name, when he’s drunk and she takes care of him. |
MMC | Male main character (see also FMC) |
MM or M/M | Male Male – a story where the couple are both male. Gay romance. |
MFM or M/F/M | A threesome, usually without any male-male interaction. |
MMF or M/M/F | A threesome which includes male-male interaction. |
MS | Manuscript. |
N
NA | New Adult. Romance written about characters between 18 and 25 years of age. Not to be confused with young adult romance. |
Nanowrimo | National Novel Writing Month – November. where authors attempt to write 50,000 words in a month. |
NBR | Non book related. |
NO-TP / NOTP | Not a One True Pairing. So a couple that we do not want to be together. Not a OTP. |
Novella | A shorter story, usually between 10K and 40K words long. |
NSFW | Not safe for work. |
O
OTP | One True Pairing. Like fated mates, it’s a couple who are meant to be together. |
OM OW (Drama) | Other man / other woman. Often used in the phrase ‘no other man / other woman drama’. |
OMYM | A story with an older man and younger woman. |
OOP | Out of print. |
Own Voices | An author, who is from an under-represented group, is writing a character or characters from that same group. They are using their own experiences to write their characters. |
P
Pantser | An author/writer who writes without a firm story plan in mind. So they write by the seat of their pants. See also PLOTTER. |
Paranormal Romance | Romance with paranormal elements such as aliens, vampires, werewolves, shifters etc. |
PB | Paperback |
Plotter | An author/writer who writes their story following a firm plan. See also PANTSER. |
PNR | Paranormal romance. Often aliens, shapeshifters, werewolves etc. See also Speculative Romance. |
POC | Person of colour. (I’ve also seen people use COC for character of colour but my 12 year old boy mind will not let me use that with any seriousness!) |
POD | Print on demand. When someone buys your book, a copy is printed. No stock of books is kept. |
Poly / Polyam | Polyamoury or polyamorous. Being with many or multiple partners at the same time. |
POV | Point of view |
Prequel | A story set before another book. Sometimes this involves the same couple as a main book to show their history or backstory but sometimes it’s a complete, standalone book introducing a series. |
Purple Prose | Fancy, over-the-top flowery wording. Often found in, but not limited to, historical romance. |
PWF | Paranormal Women’s Fiction |
R
Reading Slump | When you’ve lost the motivation to read for various – or no – reasons. May be due to a Book Hangover. |
Rec | Recommendation |
RH | Reverse Harem – a story about one woman and many men (or variations thereof) |
Rodent Man/Hero | An unconventionally attractive man with sharp, angular features like an endearing rodent. Still a loyal, attentive man who is often called a hot rodent man. |
Romancelandia | The romance reading community collective name. Our fandom. |
Romantasy | A mixture of romance and fantasy where romance is the main driver of the story. So not just a fantasy story with a romance element. |
Romcozy | A romance / rom com mixed in with a cozy mystery. Having both romantic elements and a cozy mystery included in the plot. May not necessarily have a HEA. |
RT | Romantic Times – a magazine dedicated to romance authors and the industry. Available from 1981 to 2018. |
RTC | Review to come. A cheeky way for someone not to miss a deadline for posting a review, but without actually writing one. |
RWA | Romance Writer’s of America. A nonprofit trade association whose mission is to advance the professional and common business interests of career-focused romance writers. |
S
Saffic | A portmanteau of “sapphic” and “fiction”. Lesbian fiction. |
Science Fiction / SF Romance / SFR | A science fiction romance. So aliens, werewolves, a story set in space etc. See also Speculative or Paranormal |
Science Fiction Fantasy / SFF | Science Fiction and / or Fantasy |
Second Chance Romance | A trope where a couple get a second chance at love. They’ve been together at some point in the past but for some reason have broken up. |
Self-Published | An author who publishes their book/story on their own, without a traditional publishing house. The author controls all parts of publication including marketing, graphic design, sales, editing etc. See also Indie. |
Sequel | A continuation of a previously published book or story, usually with the same main characters. |
Single Title Romance | Traditionally published romance novels around the 75k word mark. Different from Category Romances. |
Shelfie | A picture of photo of your bookshelves. |
Shifter | A shapeshifter. Often taking human form and another form such as a bear or wolf. |
Ship / Shipping | Where you want / advocate for a couple to be together e.g. “I ship Buffy and Spike”. Comes from the word relationship. |
Single Title Romance | A traditionally published novel not part of a category romance line. Usually approximately 75K words. |
Slow Burn | A story that takes a while to build up to the steaminess or big romantic payoff. |
Speculative Romance | A collection of subgenres such as fantasy, sci-fi, dystopian and paranormal. Think faes, aliens, shifters, vampires etc. |
Spin-off | A story or series that is connected to a previous book or series. Often a secondary character or second generation that fans asked for the stories of. |
Spoiler | Info that reveals crucial details about the plot that may ruin the story if you know before you read. |
Standalone | A book that is not part of a series or doesn’t need you to read any other book to enjoy and understand it. |
Stepback | A stepback is another book cover inside the main cover. The main cover is usually slightly narrower allowing a peek into the second cover underneath which tends to show the same couple from the main cover but in a slightly different pose. Hugely popular in historical romances. |
stfuattdlagg | Shut the fuck up and take that dick like a good girl. |
Street Team | A group of readers who help an author promote their book by reading it, promoting it. Often open by invitation only. |
Swag | Book related goodies such as bookmarks, book plates, pens and all types of delicious merchandise. |
Sweet Romance | A romance where there is little to no sex or physical intimacy written in the story. Some kissing and hand-holding may occur. |
T
Taboo Romance | A romance between two people who probably shouldn’t be sleeping together – whether that’s because of a professional relationship, age difference or personal relationship. E.g. professor and student, step-silbings etc |
TBB | To be bought. A wishlist. |
TBC | To be continued… |
TBR / TBR Pile | To be read. A pile/list of books that you want to read. |
TBRR | To be re-read. That pile of books you want to re-read once you’ve cleared your TBR pile. |
Third Act Break Up | Some stories have their couple breaking up towards the third quarter of the book before the big romantic conclusion. Some people hate this aspect in a novel so will tell you when it’s not there. |
Throuple | A romantic relationship between three people. The words “three” and “couple” joined together. |
TP | Triple penetration – sex where someone is being penetrated (orally, vaginally and anally) at the same time by one or more partners. |
Trade Paperback | A book larger in size than a mass market paperback (usually closer in size to a hardback book) and usually slightly more expensive. |
Traditional Publishing | A book published by a traditional publishing house. They purchase the rights to an author’s book then prints, publishes, and sells it, paying the author royalties from the sales. |
Trope | A commonly used plot device, situation or storyline. See my list of tropes here. |
TSTL | Too stupid to live. A character that acts like an airhead. |
TL;DR | Often at the end of author emails. It means Too Lazy; Didn’t Read. A long bit of text that is summarised because you just couldn’t be arsed to read it. |
TW | Trigger Warning. Informing potential readers of contents in a book that might be upsetting or trigger a reader’s anxiety, fears, memories of past experiences etc . See also CW. |
U
UF | Urban Fantasy. Books set in our modern world but often with fantastical, magical or dystopian themes. |
UST | Unresolved sexual tension. The characters haven’t acted on their sexual chemistry yet. They have yet to bang. |
W
Wallbanger | A book so terrible you want to throw it at the wall. |
Wallpaper Historical | A historical romance where there’s little to show that it’s set in the time period it says it is. We’re told it’s a historical but there’s little evidence of it. Lacking historical detail. |
WIP | Work in progress. The book an author is currently writing. |
WLW | Woman-loving-woman or women who love women |
Women’s Fiction | An outdated and offensive term used to describe fiction that’s primarily marketed at women. You know – like we’re too dumb to like Men’s Fiction. |
WYD | Who’s Your Daddy? (As well as other, more innocent things) |
Y
YA Romance | Young Adult. Romance written about characters between 13 and 18 years of age. Not to be confused with new adult romance. |
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Still looking for more help with abbreviations? What about text abbreviations? And what about the confusing words from fandoms? Try the following links to learn more.
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